Do you ever feel like you’re trapped in a version of yourself that isn’t quite you?

Maybe it’s the version you’ve been conditioned to believe you should be—the one that keeps everything safe, predictable, and within the lines.

During a conversation with one of my colleagues in my peer mastermind, she said in passing: “I don’t do boxes.”

In particular, she was talking about how she doesn’t put herself into a box when it comes to her work. She simply is.

Those five words hit me like a lightning bolt.

This is something I’ve wrestled with all year—and honestly, my friends are probably so sick of hearing about it. It’s like I’ve been going through a business identity crisis.

Am I a mindset coach? A business coach? A desires expert? A manifesting expert?

Trying to define myself felt like trying to fit into a box that just didn’t work for me. I kept asking myself, “Why do I even have to pick?”

This year, there were a few times when I looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t even recognize myself.”

Can you relate? It’s enough to drive you crazy…

Because so often, without even realizing it, we do put ourselves in a box. We shape our lives to fit societal expectations, our upbringing, or even the rules we’ve written for ourselves.

But it’s not just in life—it happens in business, too.

We think we need to fit into a certain niche, follow a specific strategy, or play by the rules set by someone else. We create invisible boundaries, telling ourselves:

“I can’t do that.”

“That’s not what people expect from me.”

“Who am I to do things differently?”

We start to conform, thinking it’s the only way to succeed. And while it might feel safe, it’s also stifling. That box limits creativity, dims our passion, and keeps us from showing up as the most authentic and expansive version of ourselves in our work.

It feels familiar. It feels secure. But does it feel right?

The Box We Build

That box isn’t always a reflection of your truth. It’s often built from fear—fear of failure, rejection, or disappointing others. It’s crafted from the pressure to be “responsible,” “realistic,” or “successful” by someone else’s standards.

And when we live inside that box, it’s like putting blinders on. We limit our dreams, we mute our inner desires, and we fight against the parts of us that crave freedom, joy, and possibility.

The worst part? Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re doing it.

The Fight Within

When you’re living as the person you think you should be, you’re constantly at war with yourself. Your dreams whisper, “There’s more for you,” but your fears shout back, “Stay small—it’s safer here.”

This inner conflict doesn’t just keep you stuck—it’s exhausting. It drains your energy, keeps you in a loop of self-doubt, and stops you from becoming the person you’re truly meant to be.

“I Don’t Do Boxes”

When my colleague said those words, it was a reminder that we don’t have to stay inside the boxes we (or others) build for us—in life or in business.

You are limitless. You are capable of reinventing yourself at any moment.

You’re allowed to change your mind, pursue your wildest dreams, and rewrite the rules. You don’t have to be just one thing. You don’t have to follow anyone else’s timeline.

You can step out of the box. Or better yet—tear it down completely.

Your Permission Slip

Today, as we near the end of the year, I want to remind you of something you might have forgotten:

You have permission to be whoever you want to be.

You can dream bigger, pivot, and take risks. You can embrace the parts of yourself you’ve been hiding and trust that they’re there for a reason.

The box you’ve been living in? It’s not locked. You can step out anytime you choose.

So, what’s one small step you can take today to move closer to the version of you that feels real? What story can you rewrite? What label can you let go of?

You’re not meant to fit into a box—you’re meant to soar.

Want to Explore This Further?

I recently hosted a powerful workshop that dives even deeper into this topic. It’s designed to help you break free from limitations, uncover your desires, and take the steps to create your dream life.

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Don’t wait—this is your chance to start rewriting your story.

You’re capable of so much more than you’ve been letting yourself believe. 💫