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Why Smaller Dreams Are Actually Scarier Than The Big Ones

I’m back from Italy, and I just had an incredible week hosting client calls and supporting our students in going to the next level.

In particular, on our I Heart Money LIVE call last week, we talked about the dream of hitting big financial milestones — 6-figures and even millionaire or billionaire status for example.

I’m all for the big goals, but one of the things I’ve realized over the past few years along my own journey as well as in supporting of hundreds of women reaching their goals, is that sometimes, we’re so focused on the big stuff, that we forget to dial it back and get really granular about what it’s going to take to get there. And in turn, we end up not taking any action at all — or at least not the right action.

You see, the key to goal setting (especially financial goal setting) and more important goal REACHING — is to be aware of and have clarity about your big picture goals (running a 7-figure brand, writing a book, hosting a 500 person event) and simultaneously be clear on and take action on behalf of your short-term goals.

Let me give you an example…

When I was first starting as a coach, I had no idea what it would take to hit 7-figures. Although that was a big picture goal of mine, my more immediate goal was 6-figures. But even that was a bit too “big” at the time.

So I dialed it back and focused on what it would take to have that first $2,000 month and then $6,000 (what I wanted to leave my 9-5 job) and so on from there.

Those more short-term financial goals would of course contribute to the big picture ones, but I had to be and become that woman first.

Make sense?

On our coaching call the other day, I was sharing this concept with some of our students, and they admitted that that $2,000 goal or the goal of replacing their current 9-5 income was actually scarier because it was much more in reach than the other more lofty goals; those were fun to say and talk about (and completely valid by the way) but weren’t close enough to inspire action.

That’s what I’m talking about, Lovely.

You need the short term goals because they will give you clarity and inspire you to take the action that will enable you to reach the big goals.

So this week, here’s what I want you to do to set yourself up for success:

Pick your top three monthly goals. Make sure they do contribute to you reaching your big picture goals since of course those goals are still important and like I said, you’re learning to focus on both simultaneously.
Ask yourself what it’s going to take to reach those goals. What are your action steps? Make a list of those.
Put those action steps/tasks on the calendar.
Finally, ask yourself what’s coming up for you when you think of taking that action? Fear? Resistance? Uncertainty?
Work on shifting that this week by focusing on your desire instead of the fear. (Remember, one of the best ways to move past fear is to take action despite the fear!)

You’ve got this!

Wishing you an incredible week ahead!

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I'm just a girl from Ohio with really big dreams, but the truth is, I always knew I was meant for more. I know firsthand what it means to feel that you're not living the life that you want, and yet not know how to make it happen. To wonder with each passing day, when your life is finally going to "get good". I've been there. Since transforming my own life, I've gone on to help thousands of women just like you so you can finally achieve your true potential and ultimately, create a life that's better than your dreams. If I can do it, you can too.

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